“Some self-help books will tell you that what you put out into the Universe you’ll get back. That your energy and attitude dictate your circumstances and reality. I used to believe this, but the more I looked around and heard people’s stories, I realized that sometimes…Life just happens.”
I received a digital ARC of Andrea Owen’s How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t from Net Galley in exchange for an honest review. This book falls into the category of self-help, as Owen lists a number of habits that overtake our lives and, well, make us feel like shit.
When it comes to the self-help genre, it can be difficult to find books that offer more than empty promises toward a “better you.” These types of books can be addictive, since reading them alone can feel like you’re taking a step in a positive direction – despite the fact that you aren’t necessarily doing anything. Many authors feed off of that, publishing books that present a problem and then tell readers to just “stop doing what they’re doing.” Life’s that simple, isn’t it?
What I enjoyed about How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t, it that Owen acknowledges this flaw in the self-help community and tells us that she won’t offer us empty advice. Then she follows through. This book doesn’t simply make readers aware of the nasty habits they’ve developed, but it offers plausible solutions to shaking these habits. That’s something I can appreciate.
On top of the suggestions, Owen also outlines exercises that readers can complete. These are meant to increase awareness of bad habits and expose the reasoning behind them. These activities strengthen How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t, and I think the emphasis on reflecting and locating the causes behind our behaviors is important.
The only thing I found strange about this book is that most of the advice is directed solely toward women. While I do agree that women should empower women, as I’m sure Owen intends to, I just didn’t find this necessary. Most of the habits in this book are things that men and women participate in, and I just didn’t understand the reason to gender the advice given. Despite the fact that women may engage in certain behaviors more, due to societal conditioning, I genuinely think that everyone can benefit from this book. Let them!
I gave How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t a 3.5 out of 5 stars on Goodreads. I enjoyed this, and I found some of the exercises and practices in here useful within the confines of my own life. I recommend this to anyone looking to better themselves, especially if you enjoy picking up a self-help book every now and again.
How To Stop Feeling Like Sh*t comes out January 2, 2018. You can pre-order your copy here.